Hey guys, I hope you all had a b-e-a-utiful day, today I wanted to explain a few things and explain why I haven’t posted something like what you are about to read, before. i have been wanting to make this post for a while now, but have been putting it off. Not because I’m scared or nervous of what I want to say, but because I want to say it in the most educational way possible, a way in which I can give more insight into why I’ve changed my views and the way I’m living my life. It’s not a sudden change for me, I believe it’s one I have been pushing myself to make for a while now that I’ve been putting all the signs together, it’s the perfect time for me to put my thoughts to words for you guys to understand.
I spent so many years of my life worrying what everyone thought of me, I let it consume me for so long until I literally woke up one morning and thought ‘fuck it, I’m going to do me and whoever I attract in my life by simply being comfortable with myself, they’re the people who I should be focusing on’ and that’s exactly what I did, and it’s the best thing I’ve ever done for myself. The reason why I believe it’s the best thing I’ve done for myself is simple. The people I’m attracting are the most down to earth, spiritual and knowledgable people I have ever met. I use to hide myself in a little bubble, fearing rejection from anyone I didn’t personally know and that’s something that stopped be from meeting the right people who would spark up my creativity, who would open my mind to possibilities I would never have imagined. When you look behind a physical appearance, when you look beyond materialist items and the way someone presents themselves on the outside, it opens you up to a whole new level of how I now believe you should connect with someone – and thats within your soul. This was always something that I felt highly of, but wasn’t aware of the amount of people who feel the same way I do, and it honestly brings my heart so much joy knowing people also look beyond looks and physical appearance when connecting with another.
In life, and growing up the way our generation has grown up – we have been taught a particular routine of what we should do, when we should do it, and why we should do it. We are taught to get good grades, get into a good school, study something, work, pay bills, get a house, get married, settle, have children. Now dont get me wrong, I know its not like this for everyone, and thats just a typical life routine, and in no way m I saying that its wrong – it is the right path for so many and if this path is what has caused you to be so internally happy – then I have so much respect for that, however for me and my future – its something I am stepping away from. I watch so many family members and friends suffer from feeling not successful, not good enough – all because they are in their twenties and haven’t settled yet, haven’t financed a house yet, or are still single. I watch them cry and tear themselves apart all because we have grown up believing we have to have everything figured out. What works for someone else, and someone else’s life journey, it will always be different then yours – that is not a bad thing. I have learnt to embrace my situation. Im 22, Ive been single for over a year now, I’m earning less in the job I am in now, then what i was doing previously. I dont own a house, i dont have myself financially set (just yet) and I have no idea where my future is going to take me, and I am so perfectly and utterly happy with that. Why? Because I am trusting my journey. Im happier in my work place because I’m doing something I’m passionate about, I’m meeting people who I honestly now know, and feel are the people Ive been missing in my life, I’m making memories and forming friendships and bonds that will last so much longer then anything materialistic, and I know that if I’m spending time with these people, making memories and focusing on what I am passionate about – everything is going to come together when it is the right time for it to come together – and that is becoming reality for me daily.
Anyone who knows me personally, knows I’ve always been connected to spirituality and healing. I’m a strong believer in ‘everything happens for a reason’ and that we are on a journey. Not everything is going to make sense right now but you need to trust you struggles, trust your journey and trust that every step you are taking, the planned, the spontaneous and the ones where you allow yourself to step out of a normal comfort zone, those are the steps that are going to shape you into the person you are meant to be. The problem that we have with a ‘victim mentality’ is that we forget to see the blessings every day brings to us, because of this, our spirit is poisoned instead of nourished. Instead of complaining about the bad in your life and questioning ‘why is this happening to me?’, have you thought about waking up just feeling lucky to be living another day, having another day to live like it’s your last. Using your time in the most positive and meaningful way, because only you can change your path and your own journey.
As crazy as it is for me to say, you need to believe in your infinite potential, your only limitations are the ones you set upon yourself. I stopped doing a lot of things I loved because I was scared. Scared of rejection, scared of not being good enough and simply not believing in my own abilities and chasing my own dreams. Is that anyone’s fault but my own? No. But dwelling on things that have already passed and things that are now out of your control is not the way to live. I now learn from my mistakes, I take them as lessons that build me into a better person, build me into a stronger person and is shaping me to be able to help others learn from the mistakes I have made.
You need to Believe in yourself, your abilities and your own potential.Never let self doubt hold you captive of achieving your dreams. You are worthy of all that you dream and hope of, and sometimes a simple self reflection is the answer to help you find that. I cannot put into words how much taking some time for myself to think, sit, ponder and reflect has helped me not only emotionally, but spiritually. Now please dont take the heading of my blog as me having a dig at anyone with a different view or opinion, I am talking about myself. I use to ignore these signs simply because I was comfortable. Not happy, but comfortable. Comfortable in a relationship I knew wasn’t right, comfortable with not challenging myself both physically and mentally, and comfortable with not allowing myself to grow – and that has all changed dramatically for me.
I now love to challenge myself in all aspects of my life, and if opportunity arises for me, I grab onto it like no tomorrow – because I will not live my life with regrets, I will not miss opportunities to form the most beautiful bonds and connections with such beautiful people – and I will not live my life on a side line anymore. I understand that this was a lot to read through, but if one person can put the puzzle pieces together, and takes something positive from my change, then that makes it all worth while for me. I ask for you all to challenge yourselves, dont be afraid to dig deep into your spirit and let it guide you in the right direction, because only you, can help yourself, and I can promise you this – you will thank yourself for it.
Im going to end this with something I wrote not long ago which I know has hit home for few people who have reached out and maybe it will help you too – think about the three C’s of life – your Choices, Chances and Changes. You’ve got to make a choice to take a chance, or your life will never change. Do things that make your soul feel alive, do things that are out of your comfort zone and have no regrets in doing what’s going to make you happy,
Thank you guys so much, from the bottom of my heart for always taking the time out to either leave comments, message me on my social media or just let me know that you think about my posts – the feedback I receive is so beautiful and you all allow me to produce content that means so much to me personally, so honestly – thank you, It is so, so appreciated.
Until next time,